Sunday, September 30, 2012

Fortress and Refuge

A Fortress.

A Refuge.

Been pondering about the great Word given by Pastor Kong today, and it was interesting how both relate to 'a place'. Both were shelters, both were places of protection. In a way, both related to defense.

But what was interesting is how the word 'fortress' is derived. In Hebrew, the word is "metzuda". Synonyms in the description of such a place include 'castle', 'stronghold', 'strong place'. 

Lest I drift too far away, let's not forget the English definition. It basically means a military stronghold. It is a source of refuge and support. Protected and Impenetrable. 

A refuge, or 'machaseh', is a place of shelter, notably from rains and storms and from danger. To me, it is a 'hiding place', somewhere to go to when things are a little too rough for you outside.

And herein lies the difference. The Fortress is a place of 'defense', while a refuge is a place of 'hiding'. 

I'd hardly think that a fortress, though possibly a source of refuge, is a place of complete safety. When under siege, the defending soldiers are DOING stuff. They are manning the ramparts, loosing arrows, pouring burning oil on invaders, firing ballistae, pushing down scaling ladders, rushing from one wall to another to fend off the enemies who have managed to secure footholds. 

All these done while under peril of arrow and sword in their battles, of death and destruction in their situations and of sadness and despair against overwhelming odds. 

Of course, our battles no longer take that form, but it is something to note.

In a refuge, we hide. We take shelter from raging storms and prowling predators.

In a fortress, we fight. We defend ourselves against adversaries i.e. negative thoughts and circumstances threatening to invade and overwhelm our lives.

One active. The other inactive.

Not saying that one is more important than the other. Sometimes we really need to just take a breather and get away from the madness threatening to swamp over us.

But at other times, we need to make that decision to be active...And fight against negative situations.

And you know what? I know that I have a God who is both my offense and defense. My Nemandja Vidic and van Persie. My Sword and my shield. 

My Fortress, and my Refuge.

"I will say to the LORD, "My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust." (Psalms 91:2, ESV)

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Graduation

This post has been a long time coming.

Well, I'll be honest here - I never attended my convocation (for vocabulary's sake) at all.

In case anyone was wondering (Not that anyone I know would, of course, since no one asked) where my photos of my graduation had gone to, they never existed. (Speaking this as a fact, dear friends, in case anyone starts pointing out I'm just being bitter. ^^ )

Everything from the smiles, the joy, the TROLLing photos to the tears, the emotions displayed with reckless abandon and the group hugs....

There was nothing.

In case anyone felt that I was a little off for the past few weeks, this was one of the main reasons. Think about it - Every single one of your peers who entered university the same time as you graduated with an Honours, while yours is a Bachelors due to certain reasons. Coming on top of that, the school has apparently forgotten its promise to 'let you know' when the gown-fitting, photo-taking and graduation dates are. The icing of the cake came, of course, when hardly anyone knew I graduated or was going to graduate this year.

The truth hurts.

I reflected back on my university life and thought that perhaps there was something to take back. Something positive. Something that I could hold in my memory and cherish it as a great time worth remembering.

Positive, yes.

Cherish?

...........

You might think me emotional, but there are many things a person can think of others. They can be right, and they can be very, very wrong. Perhaps one can be right in deducing the state of being, but the reasons are far more complex than nuclear physics' equations and formulas. 


Am I sad? Angry? Depressed? Angsty? Perhaps...But the keyword here is the change of 'Am' to 'Was'. It will pass, it passes, and it has passed.


Bottom line? Please refrain from judging. Especially if you don't know the circumstances and don't even bother to ask.


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On a lighter note that brightens up the truth a little, I've been thinking about the word 'Graduation'.

What does it mean? Here's the dictionary definition:

"An Act of Graduating."

Of course, graduation usually pertains to a time where you receive a certificate, a diploma or a degree to signify that you have gone through a period of schooling, often in a learning institute, and came out of it by passing or acing all your courses with different honours decorating your transcripts.

To me, it feels like I've received a 'Graduation' of sorts, with an unofficial certificate from the recent Emerge 2012 conference - Evolve.

The whole finale was awesome, of course...And it resonated with a finality in my heart with the conclusion that broke me out of the joyous and heartwarming reverie.

I am no longer a 'youth'.

I am...A prime adult.

And I have to be ready for the world.

Not just ready to start work, earn money, be a provider to my family...But also start to graduate from things that you can do as a youth.

Yet...



Saturday, June 2, 2012

A Whys Departure

A Whys Departure

Times you see darkened sky
Times your plans go awry
Times your love run dry
Times you ask Him why

Why has it gone this path?
Were my efforts not enough?
Journey never smooth, always rough?
Why is there once again such a vast gulf?

One moment sunny, the next a blizzard
Suddenly you feel like a hazard
Have I done wrong in Your sight
That upon me comes a terrible blight?

Yet with quietened heart and calmed soul
Even faced with shoulders possibly cold
I seek His face, heart torn to bits
Coming before the throne where He sits

And say:

"Though I know not what offenses I made
Yet this yearning I will freely trade
For Your sovereignty to reign in my life
That between heart and mind there be no strife."

"Yet lest man or woman tell me so
The mistakes I made - how would I know?
Thus I open heart and ears to hear
That everything transpired can be made clear."

"Though I still know not, despite it all,
I can hold my head up, and walk tall.
For He has examined my heart in full,
And found no fault, through and through."

So with all my heart I believe
That through Him I shall gain reprieve
The truth shall set you free, says He
And free indeed, shall I be

~Exel Goh~

Saturday, May 26, 2012

Walk On

What do you do when in a valley?

Walk on.

What do you do when you're stuck halfway up the mountain?

Climb on.

What do you do when you hit a dead end with your writing?

Write on.

What do you do when your business hits a snag?

Work on.

What do you do when you don't get what you were promised?

Wait on.

What do you do when you fail to establish or progress in a good relationship?

Move on.

What do you do when you are are defeated by circumstances and the Enemy?

Trudge on.

What do you do when you fail your own faith and feel like you're hanging off the cliff's edge?

Hang on.

What do you do when hardly anyone responds well to you despite your best efforts to love them?

Love on.

What do you do when it seems like you're walking through Hell?

......Walk On.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Reflections of a Bench-warmer

Ever wondered what a bench-warmer, or a reserve thinks? Better yet...ever been in that position?

I have...And it's suddenly came back to me these past few days. On a whim, I decided to share just what it looks like from the perspective of a reserve.

Being a reserve, a backup, a substitute, a bench-warmer or worse still - a 'water-boy' has been common for me. Only above average in sports despite my passion for it in my school days, I recalled having the ability to grasp the basics of almost any sport in lightning-quick manner - Only to realise that the advanced techniques and tactics were very slippery fish that could not be caught without the net of guidance and support, both of which I lacked.

I recalled being enthusiastic about soccer, yet the only real good ability I had was that I loved to run and hassle opponents. Even though I was tired, I remembered chasing after more skillful peers like a bloodhound who smelled the game in the round thing that was (figuratively) glued to the feet of the star player on the other team.

As time wore on, influences from various mediums - books, television, fellow soccer enthusiasts - began to help me evolve my game. It helped everyone evolve theirs. Slowly I began to be aware that I had a better sense for when that through pass was coming, or which direction my friend was going to feint to.

But that was it. That was the extent of my abilities. I could not cross, nor take a thunderous freekick. I could not do long throws, or calmly slot in penalties. I could not do the Zidane turn or the nutmeg properly without looking like an idiot. I could not pass properly, nor even shoot.

And despite my efforts to improve, that was the end of the route. While others improved, while others were fortunate enough to have a company of people they were always with to form a team, I was relegated to being the 'bloodhound' or when there wasn't anyone willing to do it, the goalkeeper. The custodian who has to face the onslaught of attackers and where every mistake is magnified a hundred times.

The relegation remained, of course, all the way into university. While injuries forced me to remain in the futsal courts and I did relatively well, I was never the best. My teammates were sometimes hesitant to switch me to a outer role for fear of my lack of composure and ability.

It didn't feel good, of course. It never did, knowing that you were just the substitute. Ever since primary school, I ignored it. "Just have fun!" A part of my mind, still innocent then, cheered me on. But that part has been stifled, or it has passed on.

The only bright spot, perhaps, was that I managed to make something out of the substitute role. A dash of hard work, a dollop of determination, and I felt as though I had pulled it off. Not quite rags-to-riches, but certainly something akin to it.

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I wasn't so lucky with my badminton school team, however. Things started out fine. Being without a bit of background at all at Secondary 1, it was almost a glorious moment when I heard my coach said that I was alright for 'C' division regular doubles the following year.

Yet, an unexpected (and I still believe, highly unintentional) betrayal came when a fellow player who knew my number, was close to me in the CCA and in class did not inform me that there was holiday training. Being an ignorant young pup, I had no idea...And it was unfortunate he did not inform me either, despite knowing my contact.

The axe came swift. After I found out and got to my coach as soon as I could, I got a great roasting from him, was nearly kicked out had it not been for some of my seniors and suffered a huge dip in form and confidence.

That was the beginning of my nightmare as a bench-warmer then. It soon became apparent that I will never regain my form or confidence despite the hard work I put in, and I daresay that I worked the hardest among all the players.

And I remembered the feelings, the perspective of a bench-warmer. Always being the cheerleader, the water-boy, the praying man, the man to count on for the regulars to warm-up. The man to be the linesman in a badminton match for other schools.


Always acting, but never in the main role.

Always working, but never lauded.

Always around, but was never paid any attention.

And though I finally, finally FINALLY got my turn as a regular in JC, it turned out I was probably put there because we already lost. Simply put, the other school was too strong. To rub salt into the wounds, The first singles that I played against was, in actuality, their third singles.

And I was beaten easily despite good spells.

Just a sacrificial lamb, thrown on to 'see what you can do'. Till the very end, it was all for naught.

Perhaps it was after that I thought that working hard amounted to little. Unless you had good support. Unless you were likable. Unless you had talent.

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Depressing as the whole thing sounds, I did learn things as a reserve. Being more helpful and kinder to those who were weaker because you knew how it felt to be inferior and looked down upon. Being able to cheer those on the frontline and build a cordial relationship with some of them.

In the end, though, it feels like I'm still a reserve. The Michael Owen of Manchester United. The player you always benched, "Just in case", but only played when all is won - or already lost.

Even now, sometimes it feels like that.

But the move of God can be mysterious, no? He uses the foolish to shame the wise, no?

Those few strands of hope...are things that a reserve can hold on to.

And once given the moment to shine, I can only hope that I will wow the crowds so greatly that no one else - even if it was for that one fleeting moment - dazzled as greatly as I.

I can only hope.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Learning in Brokenness

"What is it that You want me to learn from this, Lord?"

Out out all my moanings, grumblings, whinings, chest-beatings, bouts of weeping and delirious ramblings, that was the one sentence I remembered.

Earlier in Facebook I posted something like this:

Sometimes, God takes away everything you've ever depended on for strength - Health, finances, talent, charisma, strength, knowledge, wisdom, relationships - and breaks you down so thoroughly so that He can mould you into something so much more than what you are, so that He can bring you through the change and breakthrough you've always yearned for.

So that you get to know Him on a deeper level...

Many friends - or at least those who cared enough - would have known by now that I've been sick (and still am) for 6 days counting, and these 6 days have been literally a different kind of hell for me. The fever took away my ability to think coherently, working in tandem with a completely blocked nose and a ear blockage that inexplicably happened one fine humid night. To make matters worse, it was the ear that could hear clearly, as my left ear is partially muted due to a half-assed operation to take something out 10 years ago.

The ear is still blocked, by the way, and I can't judge the volume of my own voice at all...So if you actually READ this at all, (which I really hope you do) I'll apologize first for being a little hard of hearing of late.

In any case, I felt punch-drunk, staggering most of the time when I walk, wondering why I suddenly had two mothers at one point. Then the voices came. Nothing but mere gnats at first, they grew exponentially as the days wore on with almost nary a proactive call or message from friends (only one or two).


"They don't care about you." "See? You call these 'friends'? foolish, foolish man...Didn't I warn you before?" "You're just a number, just a statistic. You're there because you're useful, not because you are who you are."


No, really. I get the feeling many think I'm exaggerating, but simply put, I'm not.

There was that. Next came the sleepless nights, where the pain in my right ear suddenly became terribly unbearable ONLY AT NIGHT. Perhaps this is spiritual warfare, I thought, and prayed for that. Nothing happened.

The last straw was the silence. Literally.

He stopped speaking to me, stopped letting me feel Him at all, despite repeated prayers, despite mounting desperation as my ailments worsened.

I don't know when it came about, but it reached the boiling point (literally. My body was probably hot enough to cook several dozen eggs in one night) and my desperation felt so tangible that I despaired and cried out, throwing everything behind. The lack of concern shown, the inability to go out, the differences in response to same words or questions I ask of some people compared to others, the insufferable drunkenness of a world with muted sounds, The setbacks from the resolutions I set....

....Everything.

And then I realised that what I've missed most terribly is the presence of God. At the point, desperation gripped my heart with an iron fist and threatened to crush it. It was then I realised, that perhaps this period of suffering wasn't forced upon me.

It was allowed. Permitted.

God had allowed it. He had permitted it.

As those thoughts registered and I thought of the many questions I asked God back then, it zoomed in to the first one.

"What is it that You want me to learn from this, Lord?"


Indeed, I've learned quite a bit. At least, enough such that I know it's impossible to be the same after this experience.

What have I learned?

Perhaps I might just share in the next one as I allow Him to heal me over time.


 

Friday, January 6, 2012

"Your Last Save Game is..."

You know how when you play some games, such a sentence always appears after you lose? After failing to defeat an enemy, which leaves little argument to the outcome; After running out of time hopping from one train car to another to defuse a bomb; After failing to save a character key to the progression of your story.

That's what games are. You die, you lose, no worries. There's a save game there for you to re-load and retry it all over again. Do things differently. Use poison instead of spamming fireballs at the boss character. Memorise the timings of the enemy guards' patrols. Remembering to use a Healing spell at the right moment for that damsel in distress. If you failed to save...Well, that's really your own problem, then.

And if you think I'm going to say how games aren't like real-life, complete with the finger-wagging and stern look that lecturers always give to students who get their answers wrong, you're right. At least with the first part.

But recently I've discovered that Life isn't simple like that. It doesn't simply mean that since games don't resemble real-life in all it's glory (or infamy), there's no room for a depiction of principles found there in reality.

You see, the curve balls Life throw...They have a pattern. They are, after all, thrown according to the one constant - Your life.

Your life, your experiences, your emotions. The joys and sorrows, the trials and blessings, all of them are in accordance with your life and how you live it.

And every now and then, some of the curve balls are so remarkably similar that you can say, "Hey, I've seen/experienced this before!"

That is, if you've been paying attention to yourself and seek to learn from every success and failure experienced in your life.

Recently it's been a little like that, and almost immediately I thought of the Save Game analogy. It certainly isn't the same situation, with the same elements, but they are similar. For example, I might deal a critical hit to the boss which helps me finish him off easier this time round, and such actions are subject to the computations and calculations (some of them random) of the programmers.

And just like that, it's not the same, but definitely similar. Symmetrical, even. 


Similar circumstances. Similar people. Similar emotions. Similar (or perhaps even the same) motivations.

The key thing, of course, is to learn from previous experience, then make a decision not to do things that caused one to lose what he/she could have been blessed with.

It isn't easy. But armed with the knowledge of what went wrong and what you can do right this time round, it  gets a little less hard....Like decreasing the difficulty of the game if your entire party was massacred in a heartbeat.

So what's your Last Save Game?